3 Tips to Become Mentally Strong | Buddhism In English

welcome to another video in today's video I'm gonna be answering a question from the comments so the question is please tell us how to be mentally strong we need it very much so let's talk about this today how to be mentally strong and how to develop a strong mindset well first of all let's take a look at what is a strong mindset is now just take a look at this Dam up other verse from the Buddha the Buddha said pandita as a rock that is unshaken by the storm so to the wise are unshaken by the praise and theblame now have you seen these big masses of rock no matter how fast the wind blows it is not shaken the Buddha said same like that rock the wise people they are unshaken by the praise and the blame in their life and that is a strong mindset so in this video I'm gonna be sharing with you few tips that you can practice to build up a strong mindset tip number one is to maintain a stable mindset in ups and downs in life right you know life is like an ocean sometimes ocean is calm and quiet and peaceful and sometimes itis stormy right we Face ups and downs in life the Buddha said these are called Eight worldly conditions that means praise and blame gain and loss Fame and disgrace and Pleasure and Pain these are the eight worldly conditions that we face in our life remember these things so Buddha said accept these ups and downs and in life whenever people criticize you whenever people blame you whenever you go through tough times in your life if you can be mindful about your mind and your emotions and your feelings and not to be not to chase after theseemotions and feelings then you can be more stable in these situations you can maintain a good emotional balance in these situations so it is very important to be mindful and to be to practice the self-awareness in these situations and also remember you will not be able to always get the sweet comments and sweet opinions and sweet experiences in your life life will give tough times to you life will throw Lemons at you so you have to maintain a stable mindset whenever whenever you go through these situations by practicingthe mindfulness and the self-awareness remember that tip number two is to build the resilience Inside the Mind you know the resilience means the ability to stand up and bounce back when you go through the adversities and when you go through this challenging situations in your life to know to practice this one thing that you have to know and you one thing that you have to understand is that what is in your control and what is not in your control if you have a good understanding about what is in my control in my lifeand what is not in my control in my life right for an example if people comes up to you and if they're if they're starting to criticize you those criticisms those words that other people speaks about you is not under your control but what is in your control is your reaction to them it is always a choice you can think about this like should I should I become angry with this should I take this negativity should I share this negativity with them and be negative ask them if you can question like that thenyou're not ready to take that negativity and also remember having a strong mindset does not mean that you're falling down and you are feeling hurt and you are feeling down having a strong mindset means you can stand up as soon as possible when you go through these tough situations you can quickly stand up and you can quickly retrieve back to the normal situations in your life that is called the resilience so to practice this you have to have a good understanding about what is in your control in your life and whatis not in your control the experiences happens to you and the things that people say to you other people's opinions other people's thoughts about you is not under your control but all the things that is inside your mind your opinions about them your reaction to those experiences totally under your control so if something is not under your control you don't want to worry about it because you cannot make any change about it but if something is under your control definitely you can make a change aboutit you can change your choice but not others so remember that and also you have to cultivate a problem solving mindset if you're easily panicked by the problems or if you are easy to trigger it by the problems then it is not easy to solve the problems right but if you can maintain a calm and a peaceful mindset even when you go through the problems or tough situations in your life then it is very easy to go into the roots and solve the problems sometimes we we take the problems as ourselves like we think we are the angerI am this problem why is this happening to me right remember everything that is that happens to you will be impermanent it is not permanent thing right it will be changed one day so what do you have to do keep that problem aside and try to dive into the roots of that problem ask from yourself why this thing happened to me right what is the reason for this right what is the real reason for this where did I made the mistakes and go to that problem go to the root and then you can solve that problem that is how you build up aproblem-solving mindset and finally tip number three last but not least you have to practice a mindset of self-love and self-compassion remember if you're loving yourself if you truly love yourself you're not going to take other people's negativity with you right you're not going to and you're not ready to take other people's negativity with you whatever the thing that comes up to you whatever the person comes up to you and like bring their negativity with you you say well I'm not going totake this negativity with me I want to be peaceful I want to love myself I truly love myself therefore I'm not ready to take your negativity I'm not sharing this negativity with you that is called self-love and self-compassion right to practice this you can add up a simple practice that you can do it daily right when you get up early in the morning just sit on your bed and think no matter what happens during the day I am going to love myself I'm not going to take any negativity from this world right I'm going to emptymy bin and I'm going to take a NIV bin to this world right do you know if you've kept all the bad things and trash in your bin for a long time what will happen if you're in your trash bin it will start to smell no but if you remove every single day all the trash in your bin and make it clean make it a clean place then it's very easy to live it's very easy to be peaceful Within so practice the self-compassion and self-love to build a strong mindset some people think that the people who areeasily lose their temper some people think that people who are who show their toughness and rudeness they are they have this strong mindset but no anger and showing this uh negativity is not a sign of strength it's a sign of weakness right if you are easily triggered by people if you're easily triggered by the people's reactions then it's not a strong mindset the strong mindset is the mindset that is not disturbed by the ups and downs in your life so practice these simple steps right build a stable mindset make your mind aresilient one and finally love yourself more than any other person in this world when you practice these steps you can build up a mindset that is unshaken by the ups and downs in your life so I wish you all may all of you find the happiness in your life I'm a bit tired